So, it’s happened. We’re living in a post-COVID world. After what felt like endless isolation, virtual hangouts, and sourdough bread obsessions, the world is reopening. But guess what? Making friends, which used to feel so natural, now seems… tricky, right?
In this new era, many of us feel a little socially rusty, like we’ve forgotten how to truly connect. If that resonates, you’re not alone. The social landscape has changed—some people prefer Zoom catch-ups while others crave face-to-face. Luckily, I’ve got you covered with 10 ways to make real friends in a post-COVID world. And yes, you really won’t believe #5! These practical tips will help you find connection, comfort, and friendship again.
Whether you’ve recently moved, lost touch with old friends, or just want to broaden your circle, these are game-changing ways to meet new people.
1. Master the Art of the Coffee Date
Simple? Sure. Shocking? Maybe not. But the coffee date is your new best friend. Meeting up for coffee (or tea, or matcha!) is a low-stakes way to start reconnecting. It’s like dipping your toes back into social waters—no huge time commitment, no pressure.
I remember when I had my first “post-COVID” coffee meet-up. My anxiety was sky-high. I hadn’t seen anyone outside of Zoom in so long. But we just chatted, sipped, and relaxed into the moment. By the end, I realized how much I missed face-to-face conversations.
Pro tip: Invite someone from your workplace or neighborhood that you’ve chatted with but never hung out with one-on-one. It’s a casual way to start fostering a real connection.
2. Embrace “Friend Dates”
Here’s something we all need to normalize: asking people out on friend dates. It sounds weird, I know, but hear me out. Just like dating, friendships require intention.
It was only recently that I asked someone, “Hey, want to hang out sometime?” And that one brave moment turned into one of my closest friendships today. Friendship doesn’t always just “happen.” You have to create space for it.
Pro tip: The next time you vibe with someone—whether at the gym or during a class—be bold. Just ask them out for an activity you both enjoy, like a hike, brunch, or even a walk around the block. You’ll be surprised at how many people are also looking for new connections!
3. Volunteer for Causes You Care About
Feeling disconnected? Volunteering is an incredible way to meet like-minded people. Whether it’s at a food bank, a local farm, or even an animal shelter, volunteering brings you together with others who share similar values. Bonus: It feels good to give back!
When I started volunteering with a local community garden post-COVID, I was blown away by how naturally friendships formed. There’s something about working towards a common goal that strips away the awkwardness and helps you bond fast. You’ll start by swapping tips about plants, but soon you’ll be sharing your life stories over post-volunteering coffee.
Pro tip: Choose causes that genuinely matter to you. Not only will you feel good about your contribution, but you’re also more likely to meet people you vibe with.
4. Join a Class or Group That Challenges You
This one might feel uncomfortable, but it’s incredibly effective. Sign up for a class that challenges you—something you’ve always wanted to try but have been hesitant about. Whether it’s a cooking class, rock climbing, or pottery, stepping outside your comfort zone often leads to deeper connections.
I once joined a salsa dance class post-pandemic, and believe me, I was terrified. But guess what? Everyone else was too. Laughing through missteps together is one of the easiest ways to break the ice and bond. Plus, you automatically have something in common to talk about.
Pro tip: Look for local community classes or events that align with your interests. Bonus points if the activity pushes you out of your comfort zone!
5. Slide Into Their DMs (Yes, Really!)
Okay, I get it. Sliding into DMs is usually reserved for dating apps. But in today’s world, this is an incredibly underrated way to form new friendships. Social media allows you to follow and interact with people who share your interests. If you see someone posting about something you love (yoga, hiking, or even knitting), comment or message them.
Once, I found myself loving someone’s posts about their meditation journey. I slid into their DMs and sent a message saying, “Hey, I loved your perspective on mindfulness—want to grab a coffee sometime and chat about it?” Guess what? That turned into a fantastic friendship.
Pro tip: Don’t be afraid to be genuine and reach out. You’d be amazed at how many people are open to meeting new friends, especially in the post-COVID world where social skills are a little rusty for everyone.
6. Host a Game Night (Virtual or In-Person)
Game nights are a super fun, low-pressure way to meet and bond with new people. If in-person gatherings still feel a little intimidating, virtual game nights are an excellent alternative.
I’ve hosted a couple of virtual game nights with friends-of-friends, and what started as a “let’s see how this goes” scenario turned into hours of laughter and inside jokes. By the end of it, I had new friends from across the country!
Pro tip: Jackbox, Among Us, or old-fashioned trivia are always good virtual game night options. If in person, break out the board games or card games that encourage conversation, like Apples to Apples or Cards Against Humanity.
7. Reconnect with Old Friends
Don’t overlook the people you already know! The pandemic caused many of us to drift apart, but that doesn’t mean those friendships are gone for good. Take a deep breath, and reach out.
Last year, I messaged a friend I hadn’t spoken to in ages. I wasn’t sure if she even wanted to reconnect, but I said, “I miss our catch-ups, want to grab lunch and catch up?” Not only did she respond, but we rekindled our friendship stronger than before.
Pro tip: If you’re nervous about reaching out, start with something light like, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you! How have you been?” You’ll be surprised at how many people want to reconnect too.
8. Be Vulnerable and Honest
If we learned anything from the pandemic, it’s that life is too short to waste time on surface-level connections. Be open and honest about how you’re feeling with potential new friends. Vulnerability is the key to creating meaningful connections.
I once shared with a new friend that I was feeling anxious about re-entering the social world. She admitted she felt the same, and that moment of honesty became the foundation of our bond.
Pro tip: Don’t be afraid to express what’s really going on inside. The right people will appreciate your honesty, and it will deepen your connection.
9. Take Advantage of Apps Designed for Friendship
No, I’m not talking about Tinder or Bumble. There are actually apps designed for making friends! Apps like Bumble BFF, MeetUp, and Friender were created to help people meet others for platonic relationships. They’re a great way to meet people who are also actively seeking connection.
I’ve met some fantastic friends on Bumble BFF. You swipe, chat, and if you both feel the vibe, you set up a time to hang out. It’s casual, fun, and surprisingly effective.
Pro tip: Be clear about what kind of friendships you’re looking for. Are you interested in a hiking buddy? A brunch crew? Let people know!
10. Embrace “Small Talk”—It’s More Powerful Than You Think
Here’s something we tend to underestimate: the power of small talk. It may feel awkward at first, but small talk is often the gateway to bigger conversations and deeper friendships. Saying “hi” to someone at the gym, chatting with your barista, or talking to a neighbor about the weather—these small exchanges build rapport over time.
I’ve had so many unexpected friendships start this way. What began as casual chit-chat at my local yoga studio slowly turned into post-class coffee hangs, and eventually, we were planning weekend hikes together!
Pro tip: Challenge yourself to start small conversations wherever you go. Over time, you’ll find it easier to connect with people, and you’ll be surprised how many of these casual conversations blossom into real friendships.
Making friends in a post-COVID world might seem intimidating, but with a little bravery and some intentionality, it’s totally possible. So, take a deep breath, step out of your comfort zone, and give these 10 shocking ways a try! You’ve got this—meaningful, lasting friendships are just around the corner.
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